Have you ever noticed that when you feel angry, you don’t always feel and act the same? Or perhaps you’ve noticed that when other people direct their anger at you, you can have very different reactions to their anger. Sometimes when other people are angry you feel scared, sometimes you feel put down, sometimes you …
Beyond Furious: Decoding the Modes Behind Your Anger Read More »
Most people are aware of thoughts that cross their mind. These thoughts guide them, prompt them and even narrate their actions. You might notice some of these thoughts are critical of you, and the things you do and think. When this occurs, an inner critic mode is present. In schema therapy, this voice is called …
Critic Modes: Is your inner critic punitive, demanding or guilt inducing? Read More »
Strengthening your Healthy Adult mode means that you learn how to meet your core emotional needs in a healthy and balanced way.
Do you have someone in your life who seems perpetually stuck, complains a lot, and blames others for their situation? Perhaps this person states that they are powerless to change and that things can’t get better for them because of their circumstance.
They may also reject any suggestions that could help shift them out of helplessness and move them towards change. You may find they get angry at your suggestions and tell you that if you cared you wouldn’t even say these things. If so, you have met someone with the Helpless Surrender Mode
Overcontroller is a label used to explain some of the overcompensation coping modes in schema therapy. When you are in an overcompensation mode you act, think and feel like the opposite of your schemas are true. Overcompensation modes serve to make you feel less vulnerable to whatever pain is in your vulnerable child mode and …
Making sense of the overcontroller modes in schema therapy Read More »
When your schemas activate, it can feel very painful and overwhelming. Often the inner critic joins in as well, making things even more overwhelming. For this reason, a coping mode forms to prevent you from coming into contact with your schemas and critic mode. In schema therapy, a mode is a label for a part …
